Good dating habits
Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.
I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.
Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier.
I know this firsthand, as I’m 25 years old, and I’ve been dating an older guy nearly 15 years my senior for almost four years.
Persistence also takes confidence—my boyfriend extended three invitations before I finally agreed to get coffee with him.
As Aaliyah once said, “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again.” Older men know this. I won’t lie: It can be annoying at times dating someone who has “been there/done that,” but it can also be helpful when your partner can use his experiences to guide you.
In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her.
And while that may be true for some, a 2010 study by the University of Dundee in Scotland found that as women become more financially independent, their taste may skew toward older (and better-looking) men. As a woman becomes more confident in her own career and finances, she seeks a partner who matches that, which often is not a 25-year-old guy.
When I first started dating my boyfriend, it threw me off when he didn’t text me, but—wait for it— instead.As much as teens believe they know everything about everything, it is vital to stay a little more in their business with these new relationships so they learn how to maintain proper perspective, enjoying dating but also staying connected with the life they have already built.When these first loves end, it will be less likely your teen will feel hopeless and depressed when you take the time to offer your guidance and direction.I encourage parents to evaluate their relationship and work through their barriers to love so children can attract emotionally healthy individuals to date. During these first dating experiences, teens should be mindful of anyone who is jealous of the time your teen spends away from the relationship, isolating them from the people and things they love.You can share with your child all these qualities and characteristics, but it is your example that speaks the loudest. It is important that parents clearly communicate the need for maintaining friendships, school work, family time, outside activities and pursuits the teen had before this relationship.