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All of this is done without seeming embarrassment or thought.
Any attempt at autonomy on your part is strongly resisted.
The times and locations of her worst abuses are carefully chosen so that no one who might intervene will hear or see her bad behavior, and she will seem like a completely different person in public.
She'll slam you to other people, but will always embed her devaluing nuggets of snide gossip in protestations of concern, love and understanding ("I feel so sorry for poor Cynthia. Your property is given away without your consent, sometimes in front of you.
Susan Forward "Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life" by Dr. Aggressive and hostile acts are paraded as thoughtfulness. Criticism and slander is slyly disguised as concern. Instead, any time that you tell her you've done something good, she counters with something your sibling did that was better or she simply ignores you or she hears you out without saying anything, then in a short time does something cruel to you so you understand not to get above yourself.
The scapegoat has no needs and instead gets to do the caring. That division will be fostered by the narcissist with lies and with blatantly unfair and favoritizing behavior.
The golden child will defend the mother and indirectly perpetuate the abuse by finding reasons to blame the scapegoat for the mother's actions. Your accomplishments are acknowledged only to the extent that she can take credit for them.
It's part of who the child is." "Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" by Danu Morrigan "The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed" by Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC 1. She'll spoil your pleasure in something by simply congratulating you for it in an angry, envious voice that conveys how unhappy she is, again, completely deniably.