Dating one guy at a time
I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.
When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.
We did have a nice time that evening and then proceeded to never speak to each other again.
Failure became a part of dating, neither good nor bad; just a part that has to be accepted. Better First Impressions This was a direct result of having less stress.
I learned a lot about guys in general and about myself and eventually when I found myself falling in love I broke it off with the other four and ended up getting married.
First date failure, whether because she wasn’t what I was looking for or the reverse, was very difficult.On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.