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Sometimes a guy will be able to talk to someone he's interested in, often because the circumstances put them together, so the onus wasn't on him to approach anyone.

If they like someone they'll often feel too nervous to ask them out and face the awkwardness and risk of rejection that entails.

They'll come away from the interaction feeling excited and optimistic about where things may lead.

However now they have a reason to feel pressured and jittery around her, and that's exactly what happens.

The scenario then goes in one of the following directions: They're too nervous to talk to her again; They do talk to her, but they're such a withdrawn, obvious wreck that she's not interested; They talk to her, but are too nervous to be themselves, end up acting like a goofball, and shoot themselves in the foot; They're so nervous that at that immediate moment escaping the anxious symptoms takes precedence over anything else, and they act rude or aloof towards her to purposely sabotage their chance.

This 'setting them up, but not following through' scenario can happen to different degrees.

With that in mind I thought I'd try to be even more helpful and write a whole article outlining what it's like to be a man who's really shy and inexperienced with women.

She seems attracted and intrigued and like she's waiting for the guy to approach her.

At other times it's more of a powerful, paralyzing hesitation.

Like they know how they want to act, but an invisible force field is preventing them from doing so.

They may never ask them out, or put it off so long that by the time they do they're well into the Friend Zone.

Even with all of the above stacked against them, a shyer, inexperienced guy will sometimes have enough things go their way that they end up in a position where they're alone with a woman and want to 'make a move' on them (e.g., kiss them, put their arm around them, etc.).

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